What exactly is a Chief of Staff?
Having experienced the value of the CoS/founder partnership, I’m a huge advocate for both founders and the generalist-CoS-types who can find great success and fulfillment through it. Here, I’ll share a little of my personal experience. Eventually, I may build out more comprehensive resources.
If there’s one theme you’ll see repeated again and again when people talk about this role, it’s how versatile it is. The actual shape of the role depends on what the Chief of Staff brings to the table, what kind of work the organization is doing, and where the principal most needs support.
I’ve known CoS leaders who came from all kinds of backgrounds, ranging from marketing, education, consulting, product, engineering, government, and others. Naturally, each brings a different lens and set of strengths.
My own background has been rooted in startup operations, people/HR, and online community building. So the things I’m drawn to tend to fall into those categories. That said, a CoS can typically cover some version of the following:
Focus and prioritization
Support through moments of scale, transition, or uncertainty
Strategic planning
Translating vision into clear execution plans
Building internal operations functions (People, Admin, BizOps)
Managing executive-level communications and information flow
Designing and facilitating meetings
Organizational design, role clarity, and team structure
Developing leadership teams
Structuring and managing complex projects
Creating values-aligned policies and SOPs
Shaping culture
Supporting team and community engagement
Why I love the Chief of Staff role (and why you might too!)…
I frequently get asked why I am drawn to startups and why I choose to specifically work in this role. Like most CoS I know, I didn’t intentionally choose this role or path; it was a result of integrating things into my life that felt natural and allowed me to step into work that energizes me.
This is the first role that I’ve ever been in that has put me into a near constant flow state. I credit this to the adaptive nature of the role and the wide variety of tasks that keep me just at the edge of my capabilities.
One of the things I appreciate most is that there is a good balance of strategy, implementation, and relationship building. As it turns out, this is a valuable and complementary asset for founder-like people who produce a lot of unstructured ideas and relationships, without the time or discipline to manage everything downstream of that.
For better or worse, I am a generalist and enjoy having a lot of breadth to my role. To some extent, this may be a byproduct of having been in the startup world for so long, but I think that the startup environment gave me a place to find the intellectual stimulation I naturally craved.
I’m always searching for the place where I can be upstream of as many issues and opportunities as possible. I also work best in long-term, partnership type of roles, where I can really get to know the people I’m working closest to and leverage my operational strengths to support their effectiveness. This role checks those big boxes, along with many others.
Finding the Right Principal–CoS Partnership
When people reach out to me asking how to become a Chief of Staff or hire one, I always say that one of the most beautiful things about the role is that it never looks the same. It is a highly adaptive role shaped around the needs of the person or people it supports.
This is why it’s notoriously difficult to find a good match. These roles and the people who fill them tend to be shaped in very unique ways. This is true of all people, but it’s more pronounced in these support-oriented roles where you need to be on the same wavelength.
Whether you’re seeking a role as a CoS or you are a founder who is looking for a great person to support you, the most important thing you can do is take the time to really understand the alignment and nuances in values, skillset, needs, and personality. Assuming skills and values alignment, also ask yourself:
Would I want to be around this person? Every day?
Does this person seem like the kind of person I can respect and trust?
Do we communicate in a natural, unforced way? Does our energy flow easily?
Do they inspire me? Do I think I can learn from them?
In my own career, as well as when hiring others, my mantra is: if it’s not a clear “hell yes!” (on both sides) then it’s a NO.
If there are hesitations, don’t underestimate them. Every human has idiosyncrasies and areas to work on. You’re not looking for perfection. But you should feel a strong yes in your gut.
Hard skills are important but so is your gut feeling. On paper, someone might be great but you just don’t “vibe”. Listen to that. Your body can tell you things that your brain cannot make sense of. Every single time I’ve overridden my intuition, I’ve regretted it. And, conversely, when I’ve listened to my gut, I generally do not regret it. Also, keep in mind that you can train most skills, but you cannot train on values alignment and being a good match on the other dimensions.
Personality Profile
I’ve taken several personality and working style assessments over the years. While I’m aware of their limitations, they’ve helped me put language to how I tend to show up at work, both in my natural strengths and in the areas I need to stay mindful of.
I’m sharing a few of my results here because they might help you identify some of the traits that often show up in strong Chiefs of Staff or generalist operator types. Every CoS looks different, but there are some common threads.
DISC (Mediator)
Sensitive, loyal, and emotionally intuitive
Values accuracy, quality, and systematic thinking
Prefers stability, but enjoy new people and stimulating projects
Takes calculated risks and favor deliberate, meaningful change
Outgoing, enthusiastic, and persuasive with both logic and emotion
Diplomatic; seeks win-win outcomes in conflict
Makes thoughtful, people-aware decisions based on research and high standards
Skilled at connecting ideas, people, and concepts
Myers-Briggs (INFJ)
Complex, multi-talented
Humanitarian and idealistic
Blends vision and practicality
Cares deeply about people and society
Sometimes mistaken for extroverts
Thrives on deep, long-term relationships
Strong insight into others’ motivations
Empathic and emotionally attuned
Expresses themselves best in writing
Systems builders grounded in people and values
Quietly impactful; contributions often hard to quantify
WorkingGenius (Discernment + Enablement)
Intuitive, human-centered judgment
Quickly spots strong ideas and improvements
Rooted in pattern recognition, not guesses
Balances practicality, common sense, and emotional intelligence
Trusts gut—often right, even without data
Helps others move ideas forward
Flexible; doesn't need control
Encouraging, responsive, and dependable
Kind Words from Others
Brands I’ve Worked With